Read Anita Oyakhilome’s Divorce letter
obtained a copy of Anita’s divorce letter, the reverend is filing for the divorce on the grounds on unresaonable behaviors on the part oh her husband. Read the statement below. “The wife has discussed with the husband inappropriate relationship with some of his female collegue members. She2 explained that this has given her cause for concern. The husband has reduced her worries and taken no action to alleviate her grievances.” “The wife said that her marriage to the husband has irretrievably broken down and there is no signs of reconciliation or comming together. The wife will said that it is the husband’s unreasonable behaviours which have led to this. “They are both Pastors. The husband undertakes his work, in South Africa and Nigeria. The wife lives in the United Kingdom. The wife will say that they have lived separately for good 16 years and over this time have drifted apart. The wife has come to realise that the husband will only visit the UK for annual church programmes that he holds rather than to be with this wife. The wife feels that he has been unavailable as a father to their children during their developing years. “The wife also feels that their marriage suffered under the pressure of their work. They would rarely spend time together due to the husband unavailability. Special occasions such as Christmas, Birthdays and family occasions and anniversaries past them by and their rarely spent any time together as a family as the husband was more devoted to his work than he was to the family. “The wife feels that she has been used to portray and enhance the husband’s image as a family man and the reality is that there is no existing relationship between them. She feels that she has been present for official functions simply for his convenience. On occasions she has been copied into his travel itinerary which has been given to him by his staff on a need to know basis. “The wife has tried to discuss her concerns with the husband. He claims that she is carnal and he is insensitive to her feelings and her needs.” “As a result of the husband’s attitude to their marriage, the wife will say that he is virtually not recognised as a married man in the ministry. His teachings and beliefs on marriage is that the husband is a master and a controller and the wife will say that his concept of biblical; submission is so extreme that it is impossible for her to meet his expectations. She feels humiliated by the way he treats her in the presence of his close female staff members and she feels that she has been taken for granted which has become unbearably stressful for her. “The wife will say that the relationship with the husband is non-existent to the point that his itinerary which was announced publicly at the beginning of the year had no provision for time with his family. His staff members who travel with him organise both his personal and professional life without any input from her. The wife will say that she is treated with disregard almost like akin to an intruder. “The wife feels that she has been mentally, physically,moally and emotionally deprived of the experience of a marital right. She also felt that the husband has persistently judged her and his communication with her has been unduly harsh. The wife knows that he was hard to please and has been extremely critical. “The wife reserves the right to expand on all of these particulars if the divorce petition is defended.” (59)
